The subject of frequent press acclaim, Cuddle parties mix workshop and social event in a way that provides a whole lot of G-rated fun. At a Cuddle Party you can get together with other adults to explore affectionate touch and communication in a safe, non-sexual environment. They are a place where you can relax and connect and grow, knowing that your boundaries will be respected. And they're great for both singles and couples!
After hosting nearly 100 highly successful Cuddle Parties over a one year period in New York, the founders of Cuddle Party (REiD Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski) decided in early 2005 to begin offering formal training to other potential facilitators with an intense 3-day seminar and workshop.
I attended the Santa Monica training in February with a goal of bringing organized cuddling to Orange County, and in August 2005 I became the tenth person to be certified as a Cuddle Party Facilitator. I now proudly list “Engineer and Professional Cuddler” on my résumé.
Since receiving certification I have been the Cuddle Life Guard on duty for numerous parties with groups as small as 6 and as large as 26. Most have been held at my apartment in Anaheim, which can comfortably accommodate as many as 20 cuddlers.
One of the keys to a great Cuddle Party is a great assistant, and I am very lucky to have found Nancy Gregory to function as a Cuddle Caddy and partner. Nancy complements a warm and caring personality with outstanding organizational skills, and she is a veteran of numerous Cuddle Parties. As a Cuddle Caddy and co-host, Nancy is an absolute natural.
will begin promptly at 7:00 PM, and it’s important to not be late. We’ll start with an opening circle to introduce everyone and set up a very easy-going, yet clearly defined safe space -- with agreements about how we'll each learn and play and cuddle together. This includes the "Cuddle Rules." Next come a few exercises dealing with communication and boundary-setting skills. These will help everyone better understand their expectations and what they may or may not want to explore in the area of consensual touch and cuddling.
The next 2.5 hours will be for free-form connecting and cuddling, giving us a chance to practice the workshop material in an environment that is very safe and comfortable, and it can include:
a) staying in the "shallow end of the cuddle pool" where people simply talk, share stories, books, or games;
b) trying out clearly-defined, shorter times of affection, such as back-, neck-, and foot-rubs;
c) napping -- it's true, these parties are a wonderful place for resting, if that’s your need;
d) spooning, nuzzling, puppy-piles and other free-form connections, but always with each participant's explicit agreement.
We’ll conclude with a short closing circle, and small groups often choose to hang out with each other after the party to keep the connection and conversation going.
Most parties are gender-balanced, and all are thought-provoking and just plain fun!
For more info, check out the “First-party” and “FAQ” pages.
REiD and Marcia
In today's world, many of us aren't getting our Recommended Daily Allowance of welcomed touch, and Cuddle Parties were started to change this in a way that's conscious, healthy and nutritious.
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